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A Dickens Thanksgiving
11/23/2018 08:51:09 AM
"It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity"…it seems that these words profoundly ring true now as much as ever. The plagues of our time seem to be rearing their ugly head with greater ferocity…floods, fires, drug addiction, political malfeasance, income disparity, climate change and pollution…take...Read more...
Haters Need Not Apply
11/01/2018 04:34:14 PM
Growing up in my parents' house, we didn’t have a ton of rules. Not a lot that I can remember, for sure. But I do remember two that stand out in ways that certainly at the time, made my eyes roll every time I’d hear my mom repeat them. One was that not only were we not allowed to have toy guns, beebee guns or water guns, we weren’t even allowed to turn our fingers into guns and pretend-shoot. I know, a little...Read more...
Nachamu Nachamu Ami - Take Comfort O My People
10/28/2018 09:53:47 PM
As the prophetic words go, “Nachamu, Nachamu Ami,” “Comfort, O Take comfort, my people.” May comfort and resolve and bravery and courage arise from these horrific days of hate. The idea of someone entering our sacred spaces and profaning them in the most grotesque of ways is truly impossible to imagine, except that now and truly, in days before now, it isn’t and it wasn’t. I am at a loss for words but not for action. Now is the...Read more...
Rushushunna and Yum Kipper 101 A High Holy Day Primer
09/03/2018 12:52:15 PM
For days that are supposed to be filled with meaningful prayer and soulful fasting, the rush of the High Holy days and their focus on food, clothing, family and friends can be overwhelming for Jews and sometimes a little bit confounding for their neighbors. So in an effort to offer a review for my fellow Jews an a primer for their neighbors, following are a few FAQ’s on the subject.
Q: Does anybody else think it’s funny that...Read more...Harvey’s Hubris and My Humble Reply
08/02/2018 08:22:02 AM
Also available in the August 2018 digital version of the Meyerlander Monthly.
Harvey was a most unwelcome guest to a party none of us planned. And despite the fact that Harvey was such a party pooper, he didn’t push people away from the party – in fact, the more Harvey poured himself on to our party, the more and more the people came. By foot, by boat, by plane and train, rescuing, saving, offering their most sincere efforts to...Read more...
J’accuse NFL!
05/24/2018 04:50:02 PM
I remember quite well when I learned about the Nazis that sought to march down the streets of Skokie, IL in 1978. I remember a teacher and a Rabbi trying to inspire us with the devastatingly complicated notion that free speech in America was so sacred, was so respected, that even this most hateful speech and especially those who spoke it, had to be protected by the full force of the law. That their right to regale publicly in...Read more...
Wheelchair Basketball has Been Berry, Berry Good to Me
04/26/2018 05:10:43 PM
The call hit me like a ton of bricks. Natalie on the other end of the line sharing with me a devastatingly sad event that had occurred only days after we had moved to Houston in July of 2011. A family on their way home to Houston had been in a terrible car wreck, only their three small children had survived, two of them, boys, were in critical condition. Assuming they survived, they would be disabled for life. I hung...Read more...
Purim: Whiskey and Wisdom
02/27/2018 09:05:06 AM
Hatred is actually, simply, and at the most basic level, just ridiculous. And by “ridiculous,” I mean the Dictionary definition:
“Deserving or inviting derision or mockery, absurd; with synonyms such as laughable, silly and ludicrous.”
Hatred is ridiculous because it requires an expense of energy towards something or someone with which we do not want any contact. The irony, of course, is that...Read more...
A Flag, A Candle and a Pitcher of Water
01/20/2018 11:12:04 AM
This is one of my favorite teachings: “I don’t care what denomination you’re a member of, as long as you’re ashamed of it.” Rabbi Yitz Greenberg is a sage of our day who understands and teaches, that no matter our affiliation, be it religious, political, national or academic, the moment that survival becomes the primary rationale, is the moment when the soul of the cause that gave it life is dead, or has at least been reconciled to...Read more...
Let it go!
08/16/2017 02:39:05 PM
Why is it that haters won’t, in the end, stand up for what they believe? Why is it that Jew haters are the first to champion Holocaust Revisionism that attempts to prove that it didn’t happen? You’re a Nazi! You hate Jews! Why on earth would you try to erase that history? Shouldn’t you be proud of it? And why do racist southerners so boldly attempt to reframe the Civil War as the War of Northern Aggression claiming that it was their...Read more...
What this Jew thinks…
08/15/2017 04:03:58 PM
To be clear, there are no good Nazis. Period. End of story. Assuming that one can make a solid argument that there is real and sustained and organized violence coming from the left, do we not believe that there is a difference between those who are fighting for freedom, equality, access and fairness for all people regardless of race, ethnicity, national origin, sexual orientation, and religion and those who are fighting to exclude people from...Read more...
It’s time to read the Torah again
07/18/2017 04:28:21 PM
The haters are right. Those whom they despise will overcome. And someday, the ones despised will live in the homes of those who hated them.
History is on the side of those whose religion, skin color, nationality, ethnic background, etc. have “caused” majorities throughout the world to blame them for every ill life has to offer.
And if you don’t believe this is true, it’s time to read the Torah...Read more...
Why I Do Perform Jewish Weddings for Most Anyone Who Seeks Me Out…Period
07/02/2017 01:50:29 AM
Having just read your “Letter for Couples of Jewish and non-Jewish Background,” I have some thoughts I would like to share with you. “Authenticity” + $5.00 will barely buy you a cup of coffee if it leads to closing the door on a couple that is seeking a Jewish wedding. This is not a “future of the Jewish people” issue. It’s an issue of presence in the present. I wonder how many “Jewish-Jewish” couples you have let go,...Read more...
Fences May Make Good Neighbors, They Also Keep People Out
06/30/2017 02:00:04 AM
In response to this Torah commentary, I wrote the following:
With regard to intermarriage, the American Jewish community’s approach over the last 50 years has been a disaster and more than anything, the Rabbis and he synagogues are to blame. As a Reform Rabbi who has been performing marriages between Jews and non-Jews for the last 18 years, I know that Egon Mayer was right when he said, “Arguing against intermarriage is like...Read more...
Paying Attention and Letting Go – on Parashat Chukat
06/30/2017 01:57:56 AM
If you’ve read even a few of my blog posts, you probably won’t be surprised to hear that I am a little obsessed with the ancient Israelites’ penchant for kvetching. With the story of the Exodus from Mitzrayim (Eygpt) and their 40-year wandering through the midbar (wilderness) so prominent in 4 of the 5 Books of Moses, their moaning, groaning and constant trope of “woe-as-us” ever streaming from their lips, is either a serious...Read more...
Getting Unstuck
06/20/2017 02:03:42 AM
“Life’s too short.” We hear this phrase often. It or its equivalent can be found on coffee cups, bumper stickers and t-shirts. But anyone who has ever spent any time being hurt or angry or livid has probably noticed that in these moments, life is anything but too short. The pain, whether dull or intense, makes the wheels of life feel like they are moving through deep, thick mud. And the more we try to push...Read more...
Opportunity Knocks: an argument for embracing intermarriage in Judaism
06/13/2017 02:05:32 AM
A couple of nights ago, I sat with 7 couples raising Jewish children. Of these seven couples, only one of them consisted of two Jewish partners. In the other six couples raising Jewish children, one individual in each partnership with the “Jewish pedigree” had been disaffected, disconnected, or simply distanced from their Judaism. Do you know what brought them back and into this living room? The fact that they fell...Read more...
Why Do Jews Have Bleeding Hearts?
03/17/2017 02:06:59 AM
Without claiming a moral supremacy, it is so important to remember why Jews always tend to commit themselves to lost causes, abandoned ideals and dreams of a better world. In short, its called Tikun Olam, the demand, the one single injunction all Jews cannot deny we are called to – Repair the world. This world.
For Jews, there is no other world. This is it. And while the Rabbis of the Talmud and our liturgy allude to a life...Read more...
“Context Clues” – These And These are the Words of the Living God
02/03/2017 02:09:40 AM
Hillel and Shammai, two of our towering rabbinic figures, didn’t agree on much. Shammai was a stickler for rules and Hillel was far more flexible. Shammai drew a line in the sand and Hillel would find a way around it while still respecting the spirit of the law. The Rabbis asked if despite their great division, were their children allowed to marry each other. The answer was a resounding yes, for they were still Jews, they were still...Read more...